Ok maybe this will help explain my situation a bit better
in this screenshot:
You can see I have foobar opened up and when you look at the taskbar you can see that the silver foobar icon is in use and there is no default foobar icon off to the right somewhere. But when you look at the silver firefox icon you can see that it is not in use and that the default icon to the right is the one that contains all my open tabs and what not. I have been trying forever to make it go back to the way it was where my silver FF icon was the only one in use and not the default one but I just can't seem to make it happen. Funny thing is that i have had this problem in the past but for the life of me cannot remember how I fixed it.