I do not know how to say this but let's try.
I have grown to like Dinesh in a way I can not fully understand. I mean, I have for instance never met him in real life. But we have had quite intensive contact, also outside SF. We have talked on phone and Skype, sent text messages and so on. From the beginning of his wedding plans it was quite clear I'm going to attend.
I am especially grateful to him because of how he maintained the contact with me when I had difficult to talk, type, use computer and so on in August through October. He was there with his messages, encouraging me all the time.
When it was finally clear he's going to marry Kavita, I suggested he sets up a donation site. He is the sole breadwinner of his family, taking care of a lot of people, and I understood it could be very difficult for him to go through everything. I was quite sure, and told it to him, that not only me but also other members of this community would like to participate. What's a lot to him and Kavita, a lot in India, is not so much for us living in the western world.
At the time I was not aware of PayPal restrictions regarding private payments to India. When it was clear he could not manage it, not because of himself but because of these restrictions, I knew we his friends had to find something. John PM'd me in about the same time I was thinking of alternatives, asking if I could be the one, and suddenly it was clear. I felt I was a bit responsible of this, first telling him he could collect our donations legally using a website, then telling him sorry it's not possible.
I am happy I can do this for Dinesh, and proud of his friendship. Next two months of my life are going to be funny and happy because of this and doing travel plans, planning Dinesh' bachelor party
and so on. I'm retired with all the time I need, I have the means to go to wedding and finally meet the Wonder Boy from Mumbai, Sheik Dinesh al Camel whom Angie already calls half joking as my adopted son
Life is good.