Lens Pirate quote: Not to be a downer but.... This year I learned my wife
of 20 years has terminal cancer. I always planned on her out living me. The doctor told us December 14th.
I write this as my Christmas present to all of you. Consider it a gift of hard won wisdom.
Nothing you worry about now matters. Your life should revolve 100 percent around those people that you love
. In the end when you take stock of your life, when forced by circumstance to understand what it means to loose Joy, you will know then the value of love.
You will also know shame and resentment of time wasted, of poor behavior, of chances lost to bring joy to your loved ones
. Start this instant to fix that.
Step away from your PC. Put down the beer. Make someone smile. Ease someones suffering.
Have sex. Lots of it. The more you have the more you want. It makes you a better person.
Its ok to deny yourself anything to further a goal, except feelings. Never deny how you feel. Every time you do you die a little.
Understand right at this very instance that the life you have been waiting to start, the joy you have put off is happening right now. Get your head into the moment. Feel the air on your skin. Notice everything.
This is it folks, there is no promise that it will ever get better.
To begin with I am sorry for the horrific news!
You can count your 20 years of blessings as that is surely a wonderful gift that you had each and every day and for the time you still have together. Often we must lose something in order to see the true value of what we have. My Aunt has terminal cancer and I found that out and that my niece had passed away at the same time on my birthday. Granted it is not the same as a wife but they are still my family. I look back on the wonderful times we had and they are still there with me in my heart. Nothing can take that away!