Change color of taskbar "alerts"? Is it possible?

I don't know if I'm using the right term, but I searched and couldn't find anything.

Anyway, I really like the color orange. I want my taskbar to be orange, so I set it to be, but the problem is, when I use Windows Live Messenger, if an IM is incoming, I can barely see the taskbar icon change colors. Is it possible to make the icon turn a DIFFERENT color when a message comes in? Can I make all of the icons turn this new color (possibly silver? white?) when "alerts" come in?

If this is possible, I'd love to know how. I've never edited any aspect of my computer in this way, except for a custom image on the user login screen, so I'm pretty new at this. Looking forward to figuring this out. :)

Anybody? I really want to keep my orange theme.

To be honest i do think it could be done, however this would be a job for the program developer for what your asking i personally dont know of a way of doing this;

you want 'icons to change to a specific colour when recieving a message through live messenger'

Well, I think all of the icons turn the same color when notifications or alerts come in, like downloads for Internet Explorer and the like. I just wouldn't have any idea where to even TRY to figure that out.