Horrid Blue HowTo get rid of it?

hi guys, i'm on 7RTMx64, started trying to customize it. I love dark/grey themes, so I changed all the available options in "Personalize". But my apps aka firefox, abiword totalcommander, for example retain a horrible light blue tint on the toolbars and body of the app. Also I can`t find where to change the color off selected itemes, progress bars, etc. Ive downloaded a lot of "black" or "grey themes, but they don´t change all that.

Please some help here I don't know what to do

Mr Grim, dont think so. Total Commander, AbiWord, WinRar, other apps are the same. In Vista I had the same issue, but I found some visual style that changed it. That light blue I think is system wide color for vista and 7. Now I´m using a theme that includes a visual style that corrects it, but I dont like the theme very much. All the themes I have found till now are only variations of aero. None are better than the original one tweaked by me. But all those themes have that light blue. When you use a blue theme its ok, but I like my themes more grayish because I use very "strong" backgrounds.
The idea would be a visual style that has sort of XP colors, gray/silver or like MS Office black theme.
Ideas?
BTW: thanks for answering and caring :)

Search for Night launch theme for firefox

skyli, I know the theme. I don't like it very much. And even if I did, it's for FF only. I need some visual style that changes the global win7 color ...

Try this UI:
Personalization->Windows Color->Advanced Appearance Settings->
Active Title Bar/Inactive Title Bar

Arathranar, I already tried that, both on aero and on basic. It does not have any effect. On windows classic yes, but who wants that. I want aero but in aero you can mod the color off the borders, etc, but I can find no place to mod app window color, app toolbars, etc.
Must be with some visual style but I dont know how