Where did you get your copy from?
AS far as BDTS, it does a activation/licence check part way through the install.
If its booting you out of the instal, its likely due to licence failure.
You'll need to go to the official site. register your original game with the original KEY, and you will then be able to register and recieve a activation code for BDTS.
At which point it should instal.
As for the orignal ME, the "call home" feature happens when you first launch the game.
Make sure your FW isn't blocking something.
For the most part, youll never know it even happens. However, that very first launch can take a few minutes depending on the PC, server, internet traffic etc.
If it can not reach the server, or activation limit is reached it will tell you so, as well as why.
From what I remember, Steam version requires setting the exe to run as admin. The physical disc wont require it and will run without needing to do anything.