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SonyNEC - Optiarc BC -5500S-01. Yep, this one goes into most Dell,HP and of course Sony laptops. See it here . It is also available as a USB external drive where this OEM drive is put into an external casing. I bought one from ebay,USA some 10 months back (delivered by the International Seller in India). This is just for the info.
Coming to the OP's problem: The bluray lense is much more sensitive and even a slight dust and dirt on it is not as well tolerated as on the DVD/CD lense. This in part may explain the differential behaviour of OP's drive.
So before trying to replace the drive, the OP should first try cleaning the lense with a CD lense cleaner. If it fails to resolve the problem, he should get more aggressive and clean the lense with a microfiber cloth repeatedly (atleast 10 times) and give up only if all these fail.
(My own experience: The new drive I got from ebay was only playing hide and seek in My Computer. Returning it to the International Seller in USA is a difficult proposition. So I did what best I could do - cleaning it as above repeatedly. I was almost giving up, when suddenly, the drive started behaving properly after about ten wipes with the microfiber cloth. The drive never disappeared in My Computer since then. I still could not say that the cleaning was responsible for that since it was a brand new one. It could be that my repeated cleaning somehow put the head in proper alignment that stuck since then.)
So when there is nothing else you can do, try this and hope for the best. Good luck.