Very nice...I wish, would have seen Subnets

...based on your Post# 3, they are on 2 diff Subnets.
You may also give this a try, almost the same as Post# 2 but a lot more detailed.
Post# 3 from this Thread will give you a lot more detailed guide on how to accomplish this.
Do a test after, try pinging from your XP Computer to your Wireless computer.
Make sure that they are on the same Workgroup, Netbios need to be enabled on all computers.
Create identical UserNames and Passwords on all computers.
Share a C or D drive, give a Full access permission for now and see if they are able to access each other's shared Drive.
This tutorial might be of helped.