No not sat here to long
The thing is with forums it can take a while to get answers due to time zones
OK if you press the windows key and type dev
into the start search you should see an entry "Device manager"
Cick on this entry and check for any items with yellow triangles showing an error you should see one for your wireless network adaptor or it could just say unknown device.
What we need to know is if the device is recognised and if so what it is identified as.
it should be possible to right click on the item and select update driver which should then add the wireless to your tray icons