to add more info:
i have ensured the times are set the same
tried to use the original password before i changed it...took about 3 seconds a character...too long for me but i tried anyway.
tried the trouble shooter on both systems.
left homegroup on desktop, restarted both machines and created one on the laptop, no luck there either, ran the troubleshooter on it too.
disabled windows firewall on both.
i can see either under networking, but i just cant join one to the other.
the desktop had Windows 7 installed fresh about a week and a half ago, the laptop is new with Windows 7 home preinstalled.
it doesnt tell me the password is wrong, just that it cant setup a homegroup on this computer.
tried to map a network drive from one to the other, but when i went to open it, it asks for a password....i havent set any passwords other than for the homegroup...which it wont take....
im fresh out of ideas...