Windows 7 - hacked

ex girlfriend has the erie ability to now when i'm on the comp and where i've been surfin, and emailing info.
even knows when guests come over visiting in my home.
got curious an found a piece a paper with my network connection details in her home.
is this possible? crazy woman...lol
also discovered a short cut on her comp to my email.

IP address
Gateway
subnet
i'm behind a wired modem with wireless capabilities.
what do i need to do to resecure my computer and life.

thanks in advance for all the help.

Why were you in her home if she's your ex?
As for securing your network. Change the passphrase on your router and change the password on your email.
Do a virus scan and malware scan.

Has she installed stealth software on your PC? It's almost undetectable. Such software can copy emails to her, send regular screenshots, and give her a keystroke history.

I'm therefore assuming she has also read your post..

Change the Router Password or Reset the IP Address, or even get a new Router.

Excellent advice.

Then scan your computer with at least three different programs, such as Malwarebytes, Microsoft Security Essentials (there is a new, free, standalone version which runs from a disc), and at least one other program. I'd throw in a rootkit detector for good measure.

I'd also gather some evidence (along with what you already have) and be prepared to confront her with it. Don't make any specific threats, just point out that what is happening is against the law and you are considering contacting the authorities. A strong hint that if she is involved it would be way more trouble than harassing an ex-boyfriend is worth ought to end the problem.

I'd do the other things first, and only resort to the last if you are absolutely sure that the problem hasn't gone away after the router changes and malware scans.

Also check to see if there are no remote connection apps like LogMeIn, TeamViewer, etc.

thanks all for the help.
i was shown a cd in a factory package that said "hacked"...clue #2 after ironic knowlege of everything.
ive ran the following. mwb,super antispyware,emit,msse, got winpatrol,spywareblaster
she also tapped phone line with google voice, transcripts of all my calls go to text on her comp an cell phone....she's crazy...just discovering her capibilities...had to changed phone #.

i have changed passwords through isp...think i was too late though.

romeoz13-i'm not very comp saavy sounds like awsome idea..i'd hire you to fix comp and preform the task if you were nearby. will call isp tomorrow..and do recommendations

metalmania-i was invited and curious

infinite- thanks will tomorrow...is new router a must?

Qdos- i seen the cd Hacked factory blue package..seems enevitable...u can say "hi" Tina....lol....any way to detect?

thanks all....i'll be givin well deserved rep points

lol sucks i would change my router ip and check for rootkits and change the modems password

profdlp-ran kaspery root detecter..came back nothin....i am preparing...to run.....after spying is over

infinite-how do i check for those things?? thanks for the insight.

thanks for the help

m1gu31-thanks you made me laugh..cheers..will do....bad feeling when you know your privacy is being violated..don't feel comfy in own home..beein watched.