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Very true indeed.
Kari,
Those who love and care for you, love you for the person you are inside, not the exterior.
The outside may be changing, but inside you are still 'Kari'.
It's easy to forget and perhaps on certain intellectual levels even deny, but deep down I suspect you already know this to be true.
Those that cannot accept this were never truly friends to begin with. The strong love of a few is infinitely worth more than than the shallow acquaintances of many.
It's also natural to be fearful of these drastic and unwelcome changes, for they are indeed frightening.
Expressing concern and outpouring emotion of such is nothing to be ashamed of. The same applies to comparing and lamenting upon the difference of a life past, and an envisioned future. It's not an attractive prospect, but for now - at least there is still a prospect.
There is a time and place to feel emotional and have a desire to express these feelings. I'd say that now is one of those times
As for Mumbai, the will and desire to go is most certainly understandable and even commendable.
However, by now the overwhelming message that is emanating very strongly from both knowledgeable and well intentioned people should be resoundingly clear - it's not a bloody good idea.
Realistically my friend, I do not ask the following lightly:
Is attending one mans union really worth the risk of potentially forcing others to attend another mans funeral?
have gone out the window and a sea of words seems to be flowing out of you all! 
