Some important questions for the more experienced members...

Frank1 · 24 Nov 2011

rubyrubyroo said:

Frank1 said:

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true, but when you can't "please" someone due to a complete lack of self restraint over your manner of speaking to someone that is pleasant to you. Then YOU are the problem

I certainly agree with that. Unfortunately we will at times run into such people. Those are the ones who constantly put their mouth in gear before engaging their brain. it seems that tactfulness and diplomacy is not in their dictionary

rubyrubyroo · 24 Nov 2011

Frank-

I'm just saying that It sounds like "well we can't do anything about some of the people (and that is true, as some are just on the line, where nothing will be done, yet they will not stop) but in general we should (nonconfrontationally stop all thOSE people all the time), the expression sounds like someone is actively throwing their arms up with the expression "we just can't do anything about it, oh well"

I guess I picked up on that part of the "vibe"

A Guy · 24 Nov 2011

Let's not confuse rudeness with gruffness. Some people are just not the smiley, back slapping type. We've even had at least 1 member leave because of friend requests and the chillout room. Was a shame to loose them, but their choice.

I go to peoples home for a living, 20 years +, and if the customer is glib, and has humor, I respond in kind. If they are sour and quiet, I just go about my work. Doesn't make them rude, or bad people, it's just how they are.

If someone is obviously insulting, then there is never an excuse. If it is an aberration for them, then it's just a lapse. If it is their MO, they won't last. A Guy

rubyrubyroo · 24 Nov 2011

rude...lack of humor....= deal with it

transcripts that sound like someone is virtually reaching through a lcd and strangling someone on the other side. (and its always a "3 star megla-guru" vs a "Posts:1" type)

but yeah I occasionally get rude remarks thrown my way or whatnot, unless this thread lost it's conceptual construct the premise was nasty, very degrading, etc. ogres

Mike:)

profdlp · 25 Nov 2011

Sometimes when I'm helping someone I can come across as too businesslike and/or exacting. Both of my parents were teachers and I guess some of that rubbed off. I probably overuse the smilies but do so because I don't want to seem unfriendly. If anyone doesn't like it they can go take a flying leap at the moon.

(My quirky sense of humor gets me in trouble, too.

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A Guy · 25 Nov 2011

You come across as businesslike?

A Guy

rubyrubyroo · 25 Nov 2011

yea PROFDLP, i learned early...."geeks" and ""sarcasm" don't mix!

and wow...you need to be punished for your businessmanshipness :)

Meee--o

profdlp · 25 Nov 2011

Now read it without the smilies:

profdlp said:

Sometimes when I'm helping someone I can come across as too businesslike and/or exacting. Both of my parents were teachers and I guess some of that rubbed off. I probably overuse the smilies but do so because I don't want to seem unfriendly. If anyone doesn't like it they can go take a flying leap at the moon.

(My quirky sense of humor gets me in trouble, too.)

Women love it, though.

whs · 25 Nov 2011

Maybe we should amend our postings with this button:

bigmck · 25 Nov 2011

In the last 15 minutes on here I read a reply by a vet with an irritable tone to it. On the surface it could be taken as rude. The OP was told twice to read a tutorial and it was obvious he had not bothered. Sometimes OP's just bring it on themselves by not following the help that is given.