Share files directly to another IP address

I just can not fathom in THIS day and age that this can NOT be done so simply and easy. Unbelievable.

i am dinking with Filezilla Server and am trying to get to myself via FileZilla Client and this is not happening. I am not even sure what to give my buddy for info. I am assuming i need to give him MY ip address, the user name i created, the password i created, and the default port of filezilla server. a 1 hour google search has brought me nothing by way of info on this subject... and when there are NO answers, that usually means it is NOT important, or there are really no issues relating to this subject matter.

i will have to wait until tomorrow to test this server thing out.

i am thinking it would be faster to just use FileServe, but this is an issue he and I have been trying to solve for almost 2 years. Our most successful attemt to date was torrenting, and it worked good with the exception of my up limit was 100KB/s (not Kb/s) which is my limit obviously, but i use Vuze and to make a torrent worth its salt i need to keep uTorrent installed JUST TO MAKE A TORRENT!!! I like Vuze because of the smart throttling it offers.

This is just pure insanity in this day and age. can this be done any easier??? This IS after all 2012!!!

aem said:

Apart from some of the suggestion off setting up your machine as an ftp server, have you considered setting up a website where you are able to upload and download files off? One of these method would be less challenging thant he other for you.

It's not challenging for ME. and uploading to a website to let him download is SERIOUSLY not happening.
I want DC... Direct Connect.
I GUESS I have to share my system and then go and unshare 10,000 folders.
I have an extra 750GB HDD, can I just share/FTP/VPN one single drive, or again MUST I share the system and then unshare drives? this MAY be a bit quicker than right click/unshare seriously 2,000 folders.