Kids download bad things, help?

Warlockz said:

I would still get him his own Computer after his restriction is lifted

I strongly disagree with that statement. It will only reinforce his deceitful/bad behaviour and not instill good values that he will require in later life. If he wants his own computer, then he has to save up for it and pay for it himself.

Warlockz said:

One of my main concernes would be why my security software didnt stop the 68 viruses before they infected my machine? And How I got infected? was it a site that was visited? was it pirated software? Could my machine still be infected?

Entirely possible. If he was capable of bypassing the existing security, then he was also capable of disabling whatever AV was installed.

Frank1 said:

...give him some sort of reprimand. I, of course, believe that everyone deserves a second chance. After the reprimand, have a talk with him and let him know that he has one more, and only one more, chance to show that he can act responsibly...

Which is why I said this:

Dwarf said:

If, after doing all this, your son is still managing to circumvent the security, then you need to take firm steps and deny him access to the computer for a period of time. I suggest a minimum of 48hrs, increasing by 24hrs each time he circumvents the security. If he continues to circumvent the security, then you need to be looking at a longer period of access denial, such as a week or even a month. He needs to learn that access to your computer is a privilege and not a right, and, as it is your computer, you have the last word on what can and cannot be done on it.

I don't class that as a Rant, rather more common sense and a means to instill good moral values in our offspring, something which is all too sadly lacking in today's society.

Dwarf said:

to instill good moral values in our offspring, something which is all too sadly lacking in today's society.

Truer words were never spoken!

seavixen32 said:

My eldest daughter is now 43 and even now she still reminds me of the time she was taught how to close a door without slamming it.

It took 32 consecutive attempts before she realised I wasn't going to give up - I'd have carried on all night if necessary.

That's how I was raised and that's how I raised my kids to.

Frank1 said:

Dwarf said:

to instill good moral values in our offspring, something which is all too sadly lacking in today's society.

Truer words were never spoken!

Personally I would see if his little 'hacking' ability is a sign of an interest in computers and tech. If it is I would find a healthy outlet for that, and encourage that.
Steadily trying to block him like this is just going to be seen as a challenge, and if he's intelligent and has a interest in the subject, he will always find a way around it.

Maguscreed said:

Personally I would see if his little 'hacking' ability is a sign of an interest in computers and tech. If it is I would find a healthy outlet for that, and encourage that.

I would agree with the first part of your statement. But would you agree that in addition to that our children should also be taught personal responsibility for their actions ?

I agree. An interest in computing, fashion, or whatever field s/he chooses needs to be encouraged, whilst at the same time making the point that they are responsible for their actions.