I've solved the problem
Thanks to all of you who have tried to help me with this problem. It's now been solved, and I thought you would like to hear the story. Bear with me, as I'm translating things from Italian, the language of my system.
1. Today I opened Control Panel, Network Connection Center, where there is a diagram of the network. I noticed a link next to it labeled "View complete map". I had never noticed this before, and it really is the first place I should have looked. None of the troubleshooting pages I had read before coming to this forum suggested I look there. When I saw the complete map, there was my desktop floating out in space, unconnected to any of the other computers. A little digging made me realize that the desktop thought it was connected to a public network, which, of course, as kegobeer noted, would turn off sharing. So I fixed that, but I was still in the same boat. From my netbook, I could see the computer, and also the folder I wanted to share, but when I tried to open it, I still got a message saying I had insufficient authorization.
2. Then I tried renaming the workgroup on both computers, but that didn't help.
3. The I noticed that after having fixed the problem in number 1, there were two folders I could see from the netbook: the one I was trying to share, and the Users folder. I could open the Users folder, and below that I could see Default, Guest, and Public. I could open these folders, and see the subfolders under them. All the subfolders appeared to be empty, though. Under Users, there wasn't my account, just these three. So, on the desktop, I moved the folder I wanted to share into the Default hierarchy, and redid all the sharing permissions. Now I could open the shared folder and see the files. (Originally, I had just hung this folder from the C drive, with no associated user.)
I suppose that, ideally, I should figure out how to share folders that are in the hierarchy of a particular account, but I'm not particularly interested. I've had enough of this in the past two days. I'm just curious, though. Who is the Default account? My own account says that I'm the administrator, but files I put under my account hierarchy don't show up in the Administrator hierarchy. Another thing that puzzles me is that on the netbook I can still see the shared folder in its old position (not under Users/Default) and also in its new position, under Users/Default. The version in the old position appears to be empty, whereas in the new position, I can see and open the files in the folder. On the desktop, it no longer shows up in the old position, because I moved it, not copied.
Anyway, thanks again.