Also make sure you reseat your ram. Before concerning yourself with Windows not seeing it, always make sure the hardware sees the amount of ram you believe you have in there.
If the hardware (Bios) does not see what you believe is there, you need to start troubleshooting the memory, starting with reseating the memory first, and if that does not work, check the RAM individually, see if the system identifies each Ram chip.
If it does, start moving that ram chip into different slots and see if it responds correctly.
If it does that, put in pairs, first in the first match pair slot, see if it comes up right, then in the next pair slot, see if it comes up right.
This is a matter of doing trial and error, to see what comes up. Lastly, put them all in and now consider looking at the manual, there may be settings or restrictions based on the type of memory you are using or settings you are missing, but REFER TO THE MANUAL FIRST before messing with those settings.