Virtual memory has everything to do with this. Also note: Virtual memory=Physical Memory + Page File....I only have 2gb on an x64 system, but it runs perectly fine for what I need and I do beleive the virtual memory has something to do with this.
I know you use 800 MHz, but I have a case of PC5300 - several dozen 1GB sticks. I would gladly send you four of them, but you have to send me a prepaid mailer. I am tight that way.