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[JaidynM]

I agree with Julian. Report him and then ask for permission to take a few pictures as evidence. Then over a few days you can get a friend to take some pictures of him staring at you.

 

[seavixen32]

Uh-oh...I had the misfortune of running across my university stalker yet again... He was staring at me non-stop. Fortunately, my friend was sitting next to me; and whenever we talked together, we could, from the corner of our eyes, see him continuing his staring session. My friend proceeded to give me a crash course in confident body language and "get-away-from-me" strategies in a series of whispers; and in the meantime, I could feel that stare drilling into the back of my neck.

Definitely a creep. Have you tried talking to him? He might have a perfectly good reason for it...

Errr, no, don't talk to him. See if you can surreptitiously get a picture of him and report him to campus police. Is he even a student? I'm sure the police would like to have a conversation with him. maybe scare him straight. A Guy

I pretend like I can't see him at all and ignore him completely - I think it's better not to give him any attention, because his staring indicates that he wants my attention, so he's not going to get it. I'd only be able to report him if he resorted to actually threatening me verbally or physically. Until then, I don't think I can report him for staring and following me at a distance on one occasion; there's not enough hard evidence. Taking a picture surreptitiously would be really difficult, considering his constant staring, and I'm not sure whether it is legally allowed He certainly seems to be a student - he can log into the uni computers, and you need a student ID for that.
Another thing I'm paying attention to is my body language (make yourself straight and tall, hold your head high, avoid a submissive or distracted stance) and being aware of my surroundings (fortunately I know the building and surroundings very well - I was able to throw him off my track the time he followed me).

If he does try to get too close/invade my personal space, then I'll have no qualms about confronting him verbally (and in a very loud voice).

The fact that you feel threatened is sufficient grounds to get something done about him and the fact that he hasn't been reported empowers him, so you need to get it stopped before it leads to something more sinister.

The sooner you report the matter, the sooner he can be warned off. If he continues, report him again, by which time hard evidence is beginning to build.

Without evidence - anecdotal or otherwise - it will, as you say, be difficult to prove a case against him.

Tell your friends what's going on and I'm sure they'll keep an eye you and him.

You should be able to walk round the campus without feeling threatened in any way - it's your right.

 

[Athene]

I've told my friends and my parents; the timing for the next staring session has to be right, though; it's impossible to say when he'll show up again and whether my friend will be with me or not; I'd definitely need a picture, taken the way you suggested, Julian... I'm sure I came across a section on harassment somewhere on the uni website; need to see if I can find it again.

 

[boohbah]

possibly it would be a good idea to keep a diary of the time ,place that he shows up, and for how long, if you have a friend with you at these times then he/she could sign it as a witness.
it may show that if he is a student that the sightings would place him in locations he shoudn't be in, if he has a class for instance and instead he is sat opposite you
also start carrying a copy of a gun collector magazine. in plain view.

 

[dreamer]

Pretend to read a magazine with "Stalker Go Away" on cover page while he is staring at you

This is just a stupid post anyway.Just trying to cheer Athene up

 

[dreamer]

Today for the first time i went to the SF forum rules thread and had a quick look at the rules.

 

[Athene]

Lol, thanks a lot for the suggestions, everyone ;-D No stalkers today so far.
Now I'm currently reading in the library.

 

[Arc]

Lol, thanks a lot for the suggestions, everyone ;-D No stalkers today so far.
Now I'm currently reading in the library.

That's good !
I can guess the intention of that person, but his approach is not proper. If he had approached boldly and bravely ... like a real man, who knows ... the situation might be far different !

 

[Athene]

Lol, thanks a lot for the suggestions, everyone ;-D No stalkers today so far.
Now I'm currently reading in the library.

That's good !
I can guess the intention of that person, but his approach is not proper. If he had approached boldly and bravely ... like a real man, who knows ... the situation might be far different !

Well, if he had approached me normally, I would have turned him down anyway, but at least things would have been civil, respectful and well-mannered. But gawking and stalking - ew!

 

[Arc]

Well, if he had approached me normally, I would have turned him down anyway, but at least things would have been civil, respectful and well-mannered. But gawking and stalking - ew!

Easy to say But sometimes ... in a very few special cases, it is tough to do it

 

[dreamer]

Easy to say But sometimes ... in a very few special cases, it is tough to do it

You seem to have a nice bit of experience there Archie

Did you win over your other half this way??

 

[Arc]

You seem to have a nice bit of experience there Archie

Did you win over your other half this way??

Many a times

 

[dreamer]

Many a times

Oh gosh Archie you had to try this method on many other half's.

Come on say the truth mate how many other half's you have

 

[Athene]

You seem to have a nice bit of experience there Archie

Did you win over your other half this way??

Many a times

Macho

 

[Arc]

Many a times

Oh gosh Archie you had to try this method on many other half's.

Come on say the truth mate how many other half's you have

How many horcruxes makes you immortal ?

 

[Athene]

Seven...

 

[Arc]

Seven...

 

[Athene]

Lord Archiemort!

 

[Arc]

Wanna join my death eaters ? You will be called Athenetrix :roflmao:

EDIT : for Dreamer ... there is a post, too ! Dreamius Malfoy

 

[Athene]

Ever heard of Snarry or Drarry or Snupin? )