The only way to do what you wish would be to override the action of the on off switch. This switch is designed and Mechanically constructed to work as you have described where a momentary press sends a signal to the Motherboard which triggers the system to go into a controlled shut down, and if this is longer than a pre-set time to hard cut the voltage to the device.
Although it may be possible to remove this functionality it would take a lot of work and probably involve major mods to the motherboard itself.
Your best bet has to be education, (a technique I have used is a card cover over the on-off switch, with a note explaining the correct method written on the Cover), you could of course open the case and disconnect the switch and re-locate to the rear of the case but this will not prevent a frustrated family member from pulling the plug from the wall.